Getting married is a life changing event, not only for the bride and groom, but for their families. They way you interact with your parents will change drastically after you get married and if you don’t set up boundaries from day one; your relationships could be strained for a long time. The goal of this particular blog is to give you some general boundaries that you should set for your parents as you move forward in this new season of life.
Always talk with your spouse before you agree to do anything for or with your parents.
You two are a unit now; therefore your activities and obligations will affect your spouse, so before you say yes double check with your spouse to make sure you aren’t overextending yourself emotionally or financially. This isn’t necessarily asking permission to do things for or with your parents but seeing what they think about said activity.
Plan ahead for holidays.
Give your parents months of advanced notice about who you will be spending the holidays with. Personally speaking me and my husband rotate which family we will spend time with on a yearly basis, but you have to do what works best for you and your spouse. Regardless of what you do it is wise to plan ahead.
Unless it is an emergency don’t accept calls after 9 p.m.
This is one that I struggled with. Now depending on your schedule the time maybe be different, but in general once you and your husband are in bed relaxing, you shouldn’t answer the phone unless it’s an emergency. Why? Because you have to spend quality time with your spouse and if you consistently de-prioritize your spouse you will notice that your bedroom will start to get a bit chilly.
Keep your sexual activity to yourself
Speaking of the bedroom, talks about sex at this point should only be between you and your spouse. Whatever hang-ups or hiccups you might run into sexually do not need to be disclosed to your parents or any other family members. The time for your parents to teach you about the birds and the bees is over so if you have questions you have three options: God, your spouse, or your doctor (if you are having trouble conceiving).
Don’t shut them out
Your parents are still your parents and they love you dearly. One of the ways that you honor them is by spending time with them. Shutting them out and getting lost in your new life while ignoring them is very disrespectful. You don’t have to talk every hour of every day, but checking in on a weekly or monthly basis won’t hurt.
Exodus 20:12 NIV
Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
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