Baby Fever

There was a time where I was positive that Baby Fever was a complete myth. I knew I wanted to get married from a young age but I wasn't sure if I wanted to jump on the kid train right after. However my subconscious (or the Holy Spirit?) seems to be working against my plan to wait till I've been married five years BEFORE I start having kids. I say this because for the past month or so, both me and my husband have had  vivid dreams about our future kids. And then I make the mistake of getting on Facebook and I see all my friends who have babies or who are currently pregnant and I wonder if it will happen to me. Then the feeling in the pit of my stomach starts gnawing at me and the urge to have a little bundle of my own grows stronger. Pictures such as these FLOOD my timeline:

Why must they be so CUTE!!!

As a modern christian woman I know that my worth is not tied to having a child. However, between the pictures and the dreams I feel the need to rush the timeline. Life has changed dramatically and since i'm not 16 and single pregnancy wouldn't be considered the end of my life. 

But after thinking and praying about it I have discovered that the root of my baby fever is unbalanced. The only reason I want to have kids is because I'm not completely content with the season I am currently in. On the surface everything looks great but I still want something more and for my brain the only answer to this problem is a BABY. 

That's a lie.

The answer to my contentment problem is God and evasive action.  More time praying and fasting and less time getting lost in baby pictures on Facebook. I might have to unfollow some of my friends until their kids get older. The key to my contentment is to find the joy in the mundane of this season. I have to look at my life logically and continue building both the spiritual and financial foundation that will be best to raise my kids in. I'm no longer going to let my brain trick me into rushing my timeline. I will go at the pace God has set for this family.

What are some ways you combat baby fever? Do you know what the root of your baby fever is? Comment below!

Peace & Blessings

#nokidsnoproblem

Getting married is a life changing event, not only for the bride and groom, but for their families. They way you interact with your parents will change drastically after you get married and if you don’t set up boundaries from day one; your relationships could be strained for a long time. The goal of this particular blog is to give you some general boundaries that you should set for your parents as you move forward in this new season of life.  

Always talk with your spouse before you agree to do anything for or with your parents.

 You two are a unit now; therefore your activities and obligations will affect your spouse, so before you say yes double check with your spouse to make sure you aren’t overextending yourself emotionally or financially. This isn’t necessarily asking permission to do things for or with your parents but seeing what they think about said activity.

Plan ahead for holidays.

Give your parents months of advanced notice about who you will be spending the holidays with. Personally speaking me and my husband rotate which family we will spend time with on a yearly basis, but you have to do what works best for you and your spouse. Regardless of what you do it is wise to plan ahead.

Unless it is an emergency don’t accept calls after 9 p.m.

This is one that I struggled with. Now depending on your schedule the time maybe be different, but in general once you and your husband are in bed relaxing, you shouldn’t answer the phone unless it’s an emergency. Why? Because you have to spend quality time with your spouse and if you consistently de-prioritize your spouse you will notice that your bedroom will start to get a bit chilly.

Keep your sexual activity to yourself

Speaking of the bedroom, talks about sex at this point should only be between you and your spouse. Whatever hang-ups or hiccups you might run into sexually do not need to be disclosed to your parents or any other family members. The time for your parents to teach you about the birds and the bees is over so if you have questions you have three options: God, your spouse, or your doctor (if you are having trouble conceiving).

Don’t shut them out

Your parents are still your parents and they love you dearly. One of the ways that you honor them is by spending time with them. Shutting them out and getting lost in your new life while ignoring them is very disrespectful. You don’t have to talk every hour of every day, but checking in on a weekly or monthly basis won’t hurt.

Exodus 20:12 NIV

Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.  

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