I’ll be honest with ya’ll I’ve
never understood the reasoning behind why women nag. If you are married people automatically assume that it happens all the time. The picture in their
head probably looks something like this:
The
husband provides everything and is secretly unhappy. The wife is this
excessively demanding she witch, that takes care of the house and the kids,
while completely ignoring herself and her husband. Nobody is getting any sex.
This is dysfunctional on so many
levels but I want to focus on the wife. There is nothing wrong with knowing
what you want and making your requests known. However there is a big difference
between asking your husband to take out the trash one time, in a nice voice,
and asking him to take out the trash every ten minutes, while gradually getting
more and more disrespectful. The latter makes your husband feel like he’s listening to nails on a chalk board. The word describes it this way:
“…a quarrelsome wife is like the constant
dripping of a leaky roof” Proverbs 19: 13(NIV)
Aka the biblical version of water boarding.
So what is the root issue that
causes a wife to be nagging, quarrelsome, and contentious? Simple, lack of
trust, you nag him until you get your way because you don’t believe he will
handle it when and how you want it handled. You don’t trust him so you spend
your time trying to control him by nagging.
Ladies it is beyond time for us to
stop treating our husbands like they are our children. Trust God enough to
fight your battles. Your husband is a grown man. You only need to say it once,
trust that God will take care of the rest.
We always say that we are women who
trust and believe God to handle everything. I think it’s time we start acting
like it.
Orianna
Very true, Most women do nag because they don't completely trust there husband. There have been times where I have to do a "heart check." In my mind, I want to remind him 5 times a day but then I have to remember that he's grown, responsible, and capable. I'm not his mother, I'm his woman; it's a big difference.
ReplyDeleteI do heart checks too! I'm glad God is showing you and me how big the difference is between being his mother and being his woman :)
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